It is only rational to move in a new direction once a dialogue around the potential benefits has been had. This can be a dialogue with yourself or with others but time to consider the logic of what is being proposed and not get swept up in too much enthusiasm, however well intentioned, is essential if you are not going to find yourself on a path leading, at best, to nowhere. At worst to place you really don’t want to be.
In the Butterfly Model the ‘three proofs’ lies at the heart of the rigour that underlies the effectiveness of this methodology. All three proofs have to be present for an idea or concept, initiative or process to be considered of real and lasting value or worth.
Is what you are proposing based upon nothing more than an opinion or knowledge? It is an unfortunate but common error that people in positions of leadership or influence over the lives of others adopt a delusional attitude to the power of their own beliefs. Others, out of fear of their own well-being or protection, invest trust in this powerful influence in their lives (i.e. boss, social worker, parent) and act upon this instruction even if they are not convinced of the evidence or even when they can see the flaws in the logic.
The Butterfly Model programme is designed along the lines of a small scale action based research (SSABR) so it’s essential that you look for examples of where the ideas and insights being shared are being put into practice by others. Hence the reason I put my core notes on line and embed research links into the slides (here’s the summary notes ) and have setup the Leeds Friendly Google Community where other social workers and school leaders have been using the same core principles to help engage children and families in the process of change and independent thinking.
How are you putting the theory and comparative research into action? And there’s the rub! Too many of us like the idea of radical or even gentle transformation but, when it comes to moving the theory and research into our own lives and work we hold back.
We allow the time consuming frustrations of our current reality to block us from taking the necessary action, repeatedly over time, to move from where we are to where we want to be. That is not to say that you are not overstretched and too much in demand. You are. However, if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got. At some point the process of change has to begin.
So today, reflect upon what you are doing, or asking other people to do, based upon the three proofs and take one small action that is more than just an opinion or outdated belief. Do the same tomorrow. And the next day for a week. At the end of the week reflect on how far you have travelled in such a short space of time. Do the same next week. You might find it helpful to note this small steps in your journal.